And last week I got the news
that one of my good friends from high school
except this time
she’d gone too far
and now she was gone.
And I had a hard time falling asleep at night
and her mother
hugged me tight
and thanked me for coming to the service
but I did not
want to be there at all.
This is not
The girl down the street
would’ve turned 21 last year
and I can scarcely imagine
the wild times she would’ve
But she is buried six feet deep
after falling nearly 300
and she did not leave a note.
This is not
My freshman year of college
and my roommate was beautiful
and how I wanted to be just like her.
But she wore herself down
till she was
and if you blinked
you had to go and find her all over again.
So now her parents are no longer supporting her college tuition
but are paying her hospital bills
watching their daughter crumble.
This is not
So y’all can take your narcissistic
of self harm and eating disorders and committing suicide
and shove them as far up your ass
as you possibly can.
Starvation is not beautiful.
Killing yourself is not beautiful.
is not beautiful.
This note I am writing
is not beautiful.
you are beautiful
and it’s about damn time you start believing it.
Remember when everyone was like “Feminism is so dead?” Well, the last few years have absolutely proved that theory wrong.
Activists have become increasingly skilled in the digital age at using the sophisticated online tools to galvanize social change. The result? Amazing feminists are changing the world.
Here’s a look at the incredible digital campaigns in recent memory resulting in amazing feminist victories. There’s tons of work left to be done, but these moments are worth celebrating. They are a strong reminder of why we keep on fighting.
Emphasis: You don’t get to decide what women are deserving of your respect. WE ALL ARE.
Jared calling it like it is.
No. That is him stigmatizing addicts even further. Why do you think that addicts in America seem to fall off the wagon? It’s because in America we throw them out like they’re garbage. We ignore their pleas for help. Our system is not a friendly one to addicts. We leave them out of our society and we make them outcasts.
We treat addiction like it’s a choice. Yes, it was their choice to start using, but it is not their choice to become addicted. Addiction is a rabbit hole that one just keeps falling down, and an addict does not have the choice to start falling back up. They can’t just switch it on and off. Remember, once an addict, always an addict.
Once people are treated for addiction, we think they’re okay. We leave them alone and we never talk about it. Then, if they fall off the wagon, we stigmatize them. We call them “senseless” and “stupid.” We tell them it’s all their fault, and we cast them out.
We don’t treat it like what it is: a chronic disease. We treat addicts for 30 days and then they’re cured, everything’s fine, and if they fall off it’s their own fault.
We need to stop this negative attitude towards addicts and actually establish programs that help fight and combat addiction.
There are places in Europe where the government allows people to come in and get a fix. But they space out the time between visits, they decrease the amount they give. They give them continual support during and after the process, and it works. Not only does it keep addicts off the streets and gives them a safe place to go, but it also cuts down on overdoses and prevents the spread of HIV and other blood transferred diseases.
Maybe if we stopped putting a stigma on addicts and started treating them like human beings and giving them our love and support, we could help the problem.
Is that going to completely solve it and make tragedies (because that’s what it is when a 46 year old man succumbs to a disease he tried to fight) like this one go away 100%? No, it won’t. But it might bring a change to our society.
So no, Jared is not “telling it like it is.” He is helping to perpetuate the problematic attitude we have toward addicts and thereby perpetuating the problem.
Let me tell you guys something, regardless of your take on Jared’s opinion, regardless of whether you agree that PSH was being irresponsible or not, regardless of whether or not you thing this could have been avoided let explain something to you.
His children are fatherless. His wife no longer has a husband. He was probably dealing with his demons for a very long time and I know he was loved by a lot of people. This. Is. Sad. I will agree that he made some terrible mistakes to get to where he is (not including the fact that Hoffman was in rehab) but this is a tragedy, people’s lives have been torn apart and this is the worst possible time to make a statement like this, he died hours ago. And i know for a god damn fact that if this was flipped, if Jared Padalecki was the one who was found dead in his apartment, if Jared Padalecki was called “stupid” and “senseless”, if anybody even dared to say that Jared Padalecki’s passing wasn’t sad, his fans would riot.
A 14 year-old boy was recently raped at knife-point by a 20 year-old woman. When the story broke, it was primarily men who claimed he should have enjoyed it. It was feminists who validated his pain and spoke in support of him.
This is why we need feminism.”
"but men get raped too-"
AND LOOK HOW YOU HANDLED THAT
The head of a company survived 9/11 because
His son started kindergarten.
Another fellow was alive because it was
His turn to bring donuts.
One woman was late because her
Alarm clock didn’t go off in time.
One was late because of being stuck on the NJ Turnpike
Because of an auto accident.
One of them
Missed his bus.
One spilled food on her clothes and had to take
Time to change.
Car wouldn’t start.
Get a taxi.
The one that struck me was the man
Who put on a new pair of shoes that morning,
Took the various means to get to work but before.
He got there, he developed a blister on his foot.
He stopped at a drugstore to buy a Band-Aid.
That is why he is alive today..
Now when I am
Stuck in traffic,
Miss an elevator,
Turn back to answer a ringing telephone…
All the little things that annoy me,
I think to myself,
This is exactly where
I’m meant to be
At this very moment
Steven Moffat’s dismissive attitude toward women somehow seems to help his career.
this article is so so important please read it
"Not a single word."
Dr Rebecca Erikson, my professor, in her introduction of epistemology and challenging the main narrative
Dream On: Why Sleep is So Important
This infographic showcases some studies on just how dangerous—and costly—sacrificing sleep can be, and it concludes with some facts on how you can try and improve your sleep quality if it’s something you struggle with.
There will come a time when you want to cut off all your hair. Do it. Realise that the thing you want rid of doesn’t lie in the long curls that frame your face so perfectly. Live with short hair for a while. It’ll grow.
You won’t always want to talk to people. That’s okay. When it’s late and you hear your friends talking in the next room, you don’t have to join them. You’re allowed your solitude. It makes company sweeter and it teaches you how to survive alone. You will need that skill.
In the winter, you’ll believe that nothing will ever grow again. You’re wrong. Every year, London looks like it’s on its last legs, wheezing through those last cold days in March. Every year, spring comes like an explosion and the city shakes off its sleep.
Mundane problems will get the better of you sometimes. Don’t worry. Try as you might, life cannot be an endless, beautiful, intense moment. Find comfort in money worries and late trains; they’re a welcome rest in between heartbreaks and breakdowns.
People will call you a cynic, a wry smile on their faces. Pay them no mind. You alone know that you are capable of a love greater than anything they can comprehend. You alone know that you are not willing to sell your identity and respect to the first smirking halfwit to pass by. It is not cynicism. It is reverence for your own vast and fathomless heart, and it makes sense only to love someone who understands that and is awed by it.
You will not always get what you want when you want it. Accept it. Your goals are not set in stone and you are not on a fixed trajectory. Sometimes, life will take its time and you will have to play the long, interminable game. Play it well and with as much grace as you can muster. Live at your own pace.
At night, you will occasionally wake up afraid, wanting to die. Don’t give in. Night plays its tricks, but you are not so easily fooled. Your mind will play its tricks, too. It will make you believe that you’re not who you are, but you must not give in. You take a breath and you tell yourself that you are here. That you always were.”
I know it’s trendy to fight the system and cry that we are all becoming slaves of technology, but this attitude overlooks that computers and phones are tools for communicating. When someone thinks I’m an idiot smiling at a machine, I’m actually smiling at my girlfriend who is 10000 miles away and whom I would have never met if not for these newfangled electronics. As they say: when the wise man points to the moon, the fool looks at the finger.
This is a topic that I’ve been wanting to tackle for a while now; much credit to this excellent post for bringing it to the front of my brain.
The biggest shock of Paris’s spring-summer 2014 fashion shows came on the otherwise calm and gentle Nina Ricci catwalk, when two topless activists from protest group Femen crashed the podium.
Grabbing a startled model making her way down the catwalk, they screamed “fashion fascism,” with words decrying the sexualization of the modeling industry written in make-up. One had “Fashion dictaterror” scrawled on her naked torso, the other “Model don’t go to brothel.”
One British model, Liverpool-born Hollie-May Saker, was caught in the middle, with the protesters brushing against her lamé-and-lace skirt.
“The next thing I just see half-naked women with black marker pen scrawled across their bare chests and that’s when she came at me….As she grabbed my arm she lifted my skirt exposing me – I pulled my arm back with such force that I landed a punch square on her nose,” Saker told the Echo. (Photo: AP Photo/Jacques Brinon)
So, to fight back against the sexualization of the modeling industry, these women assaulted a model and forcibly exposed her?
Protip: You’re not fighting a patriarchal system by assaulting women and exposing them against their will.
I have literally never heard of a positive thing done by Femen. Seriously. They need to stop. First the blatant Islamophobia, and now this? Really?
If your idea of feminism includes racist bullshit and attacking women who don’t conform to your exact image of a feminist, guess what? You’re a complete asshole and you’re misrepresenting feminism as a whole.
I *hate* Femen. Literally they are the reason feminism is viewed in a bad light. They’re the West Borough Baptist of feminism and I can’t stand it.
wasn’t it discovered earlier this year that FEMEN is run entirely by some rich israeli dude who required women to submit topless ‘audition’ photos before they can officially become a member
im pretty sure it’s not an actual feminist organization at all it’s really fucked up
white feminism bankrolled and controlled by old rich white dudes
Yo I’ve reblogged this before but the article linked above is so crazy important it’s not even funny.
got a racist response while applying to colleges in the uk, and the social justice in me just couldn’t not respond.
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